In looking at the above clip, at the behavior of Ortiz in this baseball game, and I wonder, is it ever okay to behave in this fashion? In anger? In the heat of the moment? Is it okay to lose control? Is winning worth more than character? What is the cost, not only to the individual, but to the team, the spectators, those watching on television? What are we saying when we behave in this way?
Recently, I listened to a morning show on gratitude hosted by Elizabeth Hamilton-Guarino and the conversation turned to sportsmanship, Little League and what we model for our children. Sadly, many parents behave in anger and outrage even at Little League games, so is it any wonder things like this happen at Red Sox games?
Apology or not, of which there wasn’t (only some sad justification), I don’t see how it’s worth it. I’m married to an athlete and a coach, so I know the stakes are high in sports. And I know emotions run high.
Still, we’ve got to get past anger and learn how to model a better form of disappointment. Because essentially, this great man, this nationally recognized star, was disappointed because he struck out. And rather than accept blame or fault, he blamed the umpire, threw a temper tantrum and then ranted on about how it was justified.
How on earth does this contribute to a positive, well-functioning society? We adults must recognize our own flaws and emotions, and then decide how we want to portray ourselves because we are all role-models and no one deserves to see this. And even if the umpire was wrong, isn’t there a better way to solve the problem?
So if it isn’t right in public, is it okay in private? Is it ever okay to get this angry? To break things? To yell and scream? How do we get past anger and operate from a place of love and gratitude? In all that we do? No matter how much it tries our patience? Or our pride?